they will feel empowered to shine bright + glow & never let "NO's" get in their way. They are THE vibe. My talk will show how I rebuilt my whole life on my own, when all the odds were against me & everyone around me wanted me to fail.
They will learn they don’t have to waiting til’ the clock strikes midnight or a Fairy Godmother to save them. They will have the tools & knowledge to write their own fairytale…
It's time to throw on their crowns & remind themselves who they are, because they ARE resilient with HOPE!
“It goes without saying: when you are going through a divorce, your friends save you, again and again. They take you out for cocktails, they listen to your horror stories and they reassure you that you will get through it. The paperwork, the financial stress, the lonely nights when you’re not sure who you are anymore, the mornings when it’s hard to get out of bed or the nights when it’s hard to even go to bed.
Amanda, I couldn’t have done it without you! I wouldn’t of survived the hell I had to go through! Thank you for your uplifting knowledge, your kind and honest words…endless support! Because of YOU, I survived the hardest obstacle in that chapter of my life! Love you! Love you for loving me and showing me that I am a woman and a damn strong one at that. No one could ever take my crown away again!”
my name is Amanda Berry! I am a Life + Mindset Coach & Keynote Speaker, who empowers women to live a no "F's" given life. I wrote the Not Your Average Burn Book, a journal and manifestation guide that helps women release generational curses, burn the inner mean girl that they are to themselves and inspire them to live unapologetically and crush all of their goals.
Oops, why I’m your C O A C H!
Healed mothers, heal daughters....
I’ve always had this vision of creating this
world - a place where women feel empowered and confident to do whatever they want and never let “no’s” get in their way.
…and that is what I am doing!
As an 11-year-old little girl I found my true purpose, and I didn’t even know it. I remember going to Blockbuster with my mom to rent movies. I can't even tell you what movie I actually picked out for myself, but I can tell you hers…
It was the First Wives Club with Goldie Hawn, Diane Keaton, and Bette Midler. Later that night she popped the VHS into our VCR, so that we could watch The First Wives Club movie.
The last scene is where it stuck to that 11-year-old little girl...
The part when they opened up the Cynthia Swann Griffin Crisis Center for Women. Cynthia was their friend who had passed away from suicide, when her husband left her for his mistress and married her 3 days later. They ended the movie with the girls singing and dancing to the Lesley Gore song, “You Don’t Own Me”. In 1996 I obviously had no clue what the movie was actually about, except that I loved their all-white outfits; they all looked so chic! I still to this day love that movie and that is one my favorite songs.
It wasn’t until 2013 when that movie actually resonated with me. When I tell you I went through the ugliest divorce possible, that is truly an understatement. It was a B.S. mockery of lies and false accusations...even from my own mother.
2013 was going to be the death of me. I went through something so horrific; I thought it was going to kill me. I was destroyed mentally, personally, physically, and socially. I had nothing! I was a part-time waitress, in-fact very little friends actually stuck by. What I did have though were 2 “Debbies”. One Debbie was my aunt, and one Debbie was a customer of mine at the restaurant I worked at. My aunt Debbie has always been there for me since the day I was born. Through thick and thin, always has had my best intentions in mind and has never let me down.
My other Debbie turned into a mother figure for me, I could say friend, but she is way more than that. She also worked at an attorney’s office and guided me through my parenting plan and my divorce process. That is until it got ugly, and I needed to hire an attorney. I will never be able to repay these 2 women for everything they both have done for me mentally and physically. I will cherish them forever and always keep them near to heart.
Because of these "Debbies" - I didn’t give up. They both basically told me to pull up my big girl panties and fight. They told me over and over again, when I would breakdown DAILY - “You will not give up. You are in one hell of a ride, but you will not quit. You will get through this, and you will win. You’re not going to let them break you down any longer. This will make you stronger and will make you a better mother. Do not let this kill you".
I did it. I put on my brave face, until it wasn’t just an act - I got REALLY brave. I picked myself up off that bathroom floor and I fought like hell for the longest 5 months of my life. AND it was the hardest 5 months of my life! I did not give up and I won. The GAL report came back in my favor!
I need to state something, this truly was not just about winning. This was me fighting for my life, my power, and my voice. Like good ol’ Lesley Gore sang, “Don’t tell me what to do and don’t tell me what to say….and don’t put me on display. You Don’t Own Me”...
I made a vow to myself that I would never put myself in that kind of situation again and I would never depend on anyone ever financially. I haven’t. I put myself first, aside from my kiddos. I went to school, completed my high school completion, graduated with my degree early and have an amazing career. I rebuilt my whole life - when I had nothing. ROCK BOTTOM. I am living better than I ever have. I am creating my dream life, while actually living my best life.
I promised myself that once I was in the “right” position of my life, that I’d be YOUR “Debbie”...
I am YOUR “Debbie”. I am YOUR coach, the coach who HAS actually been there. YOUR coach, the coach who knows what it’s like first hand to actually go through the ugly parts of life. I am here to guide, empower and uplift you with the tools and resources I personally have used and still use…THAT work. I am going to help you fall in-love with yourself and crush every single one of your goals. It’s your time now, to start writing your own fairytale.
“I’m young, and I love to be young. I’m free, and I love to be free to live my life the way that I want, to say and do whatever I please”.
It does not matter how many times you have given up or even failed. You are capable and your potential is limitless. I’ve got you!
Not Your Average
Not Your Average Burn Book
Your 53 week self-empowerment journal workbook & manifestation guide, that I created & use daily.
"I originally started my memoir, on accident. I journal every day, I have for years. The more I continued to write, the more I envisioned MY story. MY story, in my own book. I went through an awful divorce and child custody case. I was left with absolutely nothing, including losing my family and friends. I fought like hell to not quit. I didn't. I used all the negative and re-built myself, my life, and most importantly my family. I took a pause on "but, she didn't quit”, because I needed to heal more. I needed to focus on something fun.
I have manifested for years. It was a therapy for my mind, body, and soul. My day still does not function the way it's supposed to without my daily routine. One morning something clicked. I am spending more time creating my "perfect" manifestation / gratitude / goal setup in my old notebooks, than I was actually spending on my practices. While I was running copies of my pages, I had a thought, what if there is that one woman out there who is just like me? Just like me in the sense of practicing the different ways she had been self-taught.
My daughter is in middle school. I'll spare you all the pre-teen drama. Listening to her with her friends reminded me of my own youth. I immediately laughed and thought of the movie Mean Girls. I made Chloe have a "mommy and daughter day" - we watched Mean Girls. The scene where Regina George made the copies of her Burn Book and threw them all over the school - instantly, I knew there was my "something fun". I needed to create a "Not Your Average Burn Book". Your complete guide to lose your negative mindset, be your best, and burn your old ways down. Are you a Regina George?"